My Dreams Are Powerful, now aging has Changed the Rules
68My Dreams Are Powerful, now aging has Changed the Rules
My Dreams Are Powerful and I always accomplished even more then I considerate possible, now aging has Changed the Rules Monumentally?
Occasionally I imagine, maybe to a great deal as my mind is whirling and creating all the time. If you indulge me for a moment, I must indigence myself in looking back when I was younger… perplexing since I feel the same way at this present time, and I am old. My body is aging ,but not my mind. I merely don’t get it, I haven’t chanced, okay I did or must have learned many lessons in this long life, but my mind is so young and when I glace into the mirror I truly do not see a familiar face in this person looking back at me. I can’t enlighten you to what this feels like. It’s an extreme sensation, a scary reflection. Where am I, am at this juncture somewhere concealed in this bizarre latest body?
I have noticed that I have extra huts-pa then other humans that I perpetually met in my life. I consider when I think about my close relationships we would articulate our dreams. Looking back I did pursue and achieved all my dreams and new dreams along the way. Those friends that uttered their dreams to me, well in my opinion, the majority of people just dream! Too frighten to make chances; leave a job, leave their friends and families, yet it would only be for a short amount of time. My attitude; the world is there for us to experience.
My brainstorm on this is; these people are they more mentally healthier and stable then I? Or are they afraid? People carry on married to people they don’t even like; stay in a dead-end job, stay in environments to feel safe. For the most part people remind me of sheep, they need to stay in a large group, a big town or city, close to relatives; I never had a family, like parents or relative while growing up after I turned sixteen, thus perhaps that is why I feel this longing to explore.
Furthermore, my point is I am still success oriented, I beg your pardon? To repeat, I continue to still wish for success, stretch my limits and my mind, go back to college, and get another degree. Yes, I am now retired; my body hurts, not feeling well. In addition, I am not ready for this; what can I do with these dreams, where do I put them? All these retired people go to the senior center and play Bridge, go to bingo, and at the end turn to religion.
I call for help from my friends to rally round me to figure out this issue. I am a teenager, yet my skin is different, my face is not me and my hair is white, I am 62 years old and disabled. I am not done; I do not want to consent to this blocked bridge; bringinh to an end from moving forward. Am I presumed to act old, and let go of my dreams; I have continuously been able to overcome whatever stood in my way. And, like the Frank Sinatra song, “I did it my way.”
Gosh, I sense that I am not formulating my point, this issue is profound as I am stuck…I endorse that I have never been stuck, I am not in control. I succeed in taking care of me; I am in charge of me, who else cares to take charge? Hello, NO one…everyone will face this someday, trust me on this. Possibly, it is what I know; what we are facing in the emanate future, the economy is going to hell; many folks have lost their homes, which of course is been happening. Senior’s live on a limited income, so if this government cuts back; we are all one paycheck away from being homeless.
Otherwise, I was reluctant to expose myself here since my fears were so intense. I did not know yet that my own lack of self-acceptance was being projected onto those around me. When my lack of self-acceptance reflects back to me, it appeared that those around me did not have acceptance of me, younger people don’t get the limits that start to happen upon aging people. As people age and loss their ability of fulfilling their dreams, they also lack acceptance which becomes compounded when the ones who are reflecting also have their own lack of self-acceptance involved.
At present, am I wondering if I since of my lost my youth; beauty, money, power, control maybe I do not now accept myself, as a result once I lost those valuable attributes, others did not accept me! Now, on the other side of the coin, I was revered so much that I became more important to them then they were to themselves. People fear negative response and refection from their family and friends more then anything else. Sometimes there is so much fear of loss of love here, that many things were not being faced. I question; if this is the end for me? Am I now supposed to accept this loss? I am sure we are all afraid to face reality, as it was or do we fear it was coming to end, as a result we are all held back and preferred that the others in our life held us back as well as our age and health started to fail. I have noticed to many folks other people’s response starts to became more important then our own.
As we age we have many different ideas from our own life experience from living for several decades, we know things that others don’t realize. Now we need to take our control back to survive, many things are about to happen here on our planet very soon. As I see it, “Giving up” is NO option for any of us, sick, old, disabled, healthy, we all need to help each other and learn to create new communities. Remember in the past it took a whole village to raise the children.
Okay, now I am rambling and I don’t want to bore you, nevertheless what is the place we belong; once we don’t contribute to the community anymore? Let’s talk about this; I really want to start a dialog about life in our later years when we still feel like we are young. The mind stays trapped in this place while the body gets wore out. We need to support each other as the American Indians go to the elders in the tribe for advice. We throw our elders away in this country. So we need to take care of ourselves, and it would be so easy to lay here in bed and give up, the battle is overwhelming, although we need to gather our strength and move, move faster, think stronger and follow those dreams until you drop dead on some rose garden. Peace & Love
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My Dreams Are Powerful, now aging has Changed the Rules
My Dreams Are Powerful, now aging has Changed the Rules
My Dreams Are Powerful, now aging has Changed the Rules
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Thank you Sandspider, you were my first comment, I was not sure how this hub would be received. Yup my mind is still in the teens, LOL...
Darlene, OMW! This is a hub! But you’ve raised an extremely important topic, and I would like to share my ideas with you. I am not yet 60, but your thoughts are already my thoughts. There was a time in history when the elders were regarded as the leaders. Their advice were required and followed, because, as you said, they knew much more about life than young adults. But then the youth took over. We can’t blame them, because they learn (in books) what elders never learned in their life, or experienced. How many adults, and in particular elders, deserve today the respect of the youth by proving their knowledge and wisdom in such a way that the younger develop the necessary desire to learn from them, or rely on them for rendering needed services?
I agree wholeheartedly with you – elders should not be ‘ignored’ and push aside to places where they have to create their own societies, and of course they also should not be used and abused by their families. But somebody has to come forward with a brilliant idea for the elders to still deliver important services.
My mother, for example, in her 70’s and living in a retirement village, work every second morning as a volunteer in the section – what do they call it – where the elders who cannot take care of themselves live. She helps with feeding and bathing, et cetera. And she FEELS good about it. She MEANS something to others. But this is but only one place where elders can mean something for their community. What about businesses... well, keep in mind there are not even enough jobs for younger people, so elders have to be entrepreneurs – they have to create or develop some kind of service needed by younger people. I can think of many enterprises. Involving elders in these, will have so many positive results – active people feels healthier and more energetic... when active the brain produces serotonene, the body’s own anti-depressant.
I also believe one should never stop studying. Any new knowledge stimulates the brain, and a stimulated brain stimulates the body. (Carl Young has a theory about this.)
Ref the unfriendly and merciless mirror: I have the same problem – looking at myself, realizing I’m loosing my youth. At work I gave over all the reigns in the beginning of 2010, now doing only one of five major duties I’ve performed for almost 20 years. Who am I now, how should I behave in my new position? Scary! It’s been a year now, and I’m still battling with my self-image.
My last thought, perhaps repeating myself. The elders have to invent, or re-invent, an important, and needed service to render. They have to use their skills and knowledge and outmaster their competition: the youth, who are battling their jacks off to raise their children, satisfy their partners and their bosses. Part of retiring villages can easily be converted in recreation centres, offering needed services.
The rule should be: Don’t think/dream, get up and DO. Perhaps a lack of ideas is the problem, or a lack of support and encouragement. So Darlene, why don’t you go for it! You know most people are followers; they need a go-getter like you to take the lead. Once on the go, some of those followers will overtake you. Ha-ha.
Sorry for this hub in your comment section. I am, unfortunately, always too eager to utter my ideas, and then I have to proof the feasibility of it for years, working myself to pieces, before the younger ones take over and reap the fruit. But this is another hub to be written. I’m looking forward to your reply and the comments of other hubbers.
Darsky, This hub is full of good ideas and information. We share some similar experiences as I became disabled 10 years ago due to lupus and complications. I think every day is still a new beginning and it has taken some time for me to change my attitude. I live very much in the present moment and don't worry about tomorrow very often. I don't try to impress anyone because I am what I am. My family and friends are also very important to me.
There are many awful things happening in this world and the elderly deserved out respect. They have lived through things we hear about but can't really imagine as we haven't walked in their shoes. Many are involved in important volunteer work and do much to help others.
I loved this hub as you expressed so many things from your heart. You are such a unique individual.
Much love and blessings to you.
Dear Martie and Pam:
You wrote so much about the way I think and feel, I need to fight to keep going, I have so much to do and in my life I was so successful now I stay in the house and write. Don't get me wrong writing is my passion always. However, I have entered this place of fear, I have so much to do, so many dreams, who am I? How much time do I have before I lose more then my body, but then the mind. This is so strange, I look at these old people and they are so old, like the way they dress and think...I don't want to be them, I don't me that way, I am an old hippie, they think I am wild and stay away from me LOL Something has changed, my soul is telling me to move on this, to hurry and finish and this is bothering me as I am feeling A warning.
I don't know if you know what I am saying, it is strange I know, I am only 62 but have a spine problem, so it's painful and hard to get around. But OMG I have so much I want to do. I want to start another company, of course, on line, I am low income and I must fix this fast as if not we old folks are really going to be in trouble and many many elders have NO family. I would rather die then leave my home, and be put in a place...NO this will not happen. I am a hermit and I must change my ways, I have been inside for ten years. I must step up and out, I must make a change, I need to get brave and stronge and not hide from a world that is so very messed up. This change needs to happen, I just don't know how with my limits and fears. I am going to do it, once I say I am going to do something, it happens. I want everyone to stop expecting any help, the government, your family. Only yourself that is all you have, and you need to surround yourself with those who feel the same, and learn to walk away from those that don't care anymore, there are two paths, in or out...move or stand still, die now or die doing what your dreams are! Thank you my dear dear friends. I love you....darski
You have knocked the ball way out of the park with this one.I don't think they will ever find it.We live our whole lives trying to gain knowledge and use it to the best of our ability.When we finally have the talent we needed we have lost our most vital resource our bodies to carry on the work we worked so hard to make possible.I am all in.You keep pointing the direction and I will make the next map.How to get there one way or another.Love the hub and I see the length and the depth of the subjects you cover.I am very honored to have covered the same topic as you and your you tube video was perfect.Go with all engines full steam ahead.Great job and what an enormous heart you have to share with everyone.
Yes Dream on,
when I was reading yours I was so baffled that we were working on the same issues and now that I am reading some of these comments, I realizes others feel the same way. We are not finished yet, we have so much work to do. I wish we all lived in Hubpages town someplace where it was a small town full of writers then support and share their lives together. Sit at the lake, park, coffee houses, kitchen table and just enjoy writing and growing more each day. In a land of understanding and passions that others can learn and share. Thank you for you oh so kind comment. Love darski
Darski, I can sense you are in the fight-flee-fall-mode - a mode I am very familiar with. It is a dangerous mode; panic makes you do things you should not do.
Let’s approach this like a cat approaches a mouse. Determine your ‘human’ resources, and in your case it will be your own mind and your own body, your own skills and qualifications. You’ve got to be very honest with yourself. You’ve got to face reality. Are you really willing (and emotionally able) to go out there after being a hermit for so long?
And then you’ve got to determine the need of the community you want to serve (in exchange for the money, or whatever, you need). One has to look deep and wide, looking for an unfulfilled need.
Then you’ve got to ask yourself if you are really-really in the mood for all the hassles involved? Is it really necessary to go out there and start something new? Can’t you just improve on something you are already doing?
I’ve learned – ten years ago when I was not able to see light at the end of the dark tunnel – that fearing the future is totally unnecessary and a waste of precious time. Things work out. Cometh the moment, cometh the man. Why hit a hole in the wall, hurting yourself, damaging yourself, while there is a door that will, sooner or later, opens just for you? Trust in God (man proposes, but God disposes, and good always prevail) makes one strong and calm and clever. This one doesn’t know/realize while s/he is in the fight-flee-fall-mode.
I’ve also learned that I have to be at peace with myself, my body, my mind – I must be my own best friend – before I can achieve any success in whatever endeavour. My wish for you is lots of peace, bright ideas and luck.
You hit the nail right on the head Martie, my kids keep telling me I need to get out of the house, I really love the peace and quiet and I like being alone. they want me to meeet someone and I don't what to. So yes, there is an ergentcy in my behavior or a feeling of not reaching my full potentional. I hear you load and clear and please email me... I will give you my info..love & peace darski
Darlene,
Personally, I adore you just the way you are. Keep the mind active and the body will thank you.
That is awesome to say Pop and ditto on that. I can't wait to read what you are going to do next, when I watch the news I try to guess, most of the time I am right. LOL Love you bunches, peace and cheers, darski
Girlfriend, it's great to know you're the "older woman" (I'm only 61 :-) I know what you mean but don't spend much time worrying about it. I noticed that a lot of folks commenting are women. Do you think it hits women a bit harder? I don't know, just asking. Doesn't matter how old you are, I'm always with you in spirit!! Peace!! Tom
Make your dream clear and spend the time to break it down to the littlest things that you will not compromise on and some things you will accept change.See your progress every day.Keep in touch.
..this is a hub subject in which dreams are made of - because someone as special as you is the author!
And you always a source of inspiration to your readers as you were born to write and we are happy you did~!
Hi Tom, you know it's just one of my thoughts that just ramble around inside my head, times have changed and it's getting harder for all of us.
Dream on, you are also so right on as usual, and a day at a time, but a good subject to explore.
Colin, dreams made from this hub, I can see your mind spinning to spin a web of stories from this hub that is full of ideas. Love & peace my dear friends. darski
In regard to: "At present, am I wondering if I since of my lost my youth; beauty, money, power, control maybe I do not now accept myself, as a result once I lost those valuable attributes, others did not accept me!" We were never in control. Now you have the wisdom to know... the difference in what you can control (you) and what you cannot control (others).
Your wisdom is showing. Your priorities are "in-sync" for you...
Thank you my dear friend Dallas, it's kind of sad that those things made me received by others, and now it's just me...which I am happy about, but the rules sure did change. Love you dallas, thank you my friend...
Darlene, your hub has reminded me of a scripture that I had read this morning from David in the book of Psalms that I would like to share with you.
Psalm 40:4-7
"Lord, make me to know my end,
And what is the measure of my days,
That I may know how frail I am.
Indeed, You have made my days as handbreadths,
And my age is as nothing before You;
Certainly every man at his best state is but vapor.
Surely every man walks about like a shadow.
Surely they busy themselves in vain;
He heaps up riches,
And does not know who will gather them.
"And now, Lord, what do I wait for?
My hope is You.
This scripture got me thinking today about what really matters and what doesn't. Life happens and at the end of the day I look at what ever my circumstances and situations are and ask what and how do these have to do with eternal peace and joy that come from Him and only Him. I come to the understanding that life is but a vapor and that I should enjoy each and ever new day and season that is given to me. He has a perfect plan for us no matter how old or young we are. Life is precious and short, I find that every time I put my hope and trust in the Lord, He always leads me through.
Darlene you have been fearfully and wonderfully made by the Creator of all, with purpose. The lord's desire for you is defiantly not to be in a state of fear. So many blessing still lie ahead as you begin each new day with Him.
Blessing and Peace be upon you my good friend.
rpalulis my dear dear friend, now that is the best answer of all, and yet it is not riches or things, it is to create, we were made to create. Yes, I am so glad you read that passage today, what a wonderful when we all flow together to put pieces together. This means we are all connected and we were brought together to love, support and help each other. I really love you and I will read this over and over again. You are a true real follower that has the heart and soul of our Lord...that is why you are blessed. Which makes me blessed to know you. Love you always darski
Darski - It is just so - I feel that way too. I'm but a teenager or at least 20's in my head but then I look in the mirror and go 'wow - who's that old fart?' Staggering.
When I have to go to the doctor, they always laugh at me. I don't like things that aren't working properly or having aches and pains or problems of ANY kind. Period. They just laugh and tell me that it's just part of the 'process' and I usually retort with 'tough crap - I'm not letting it stop me....I'm still riding the damn sled.' More laughter.
Oh well - I figure life is just life and we have to pass from stage to stage. Oh that I had had the wisdom I have now in my 20's though. I'd have been a genius for sure! ha ha
Well put, Darski and just know you're not alone in your feelings. I always say though that being my age beats the alternative. I have a lot more living to do and I believe in success as well. My only complaint is that I have not enough time for all I want to do. One day at a time though!
Ha akirchner I tell my doctor the same think, I tell him I am too young to feel this way, and what the heck is this brown spot on the top of my hand, he tell me the same thing, just the process.. What, I am too young what are you talking about? Process smocess....but yes, I do keep on keep on, just another one of my thouhgts rolling around in my head about aging, it sucks. Love you darski
Beautiful and very inspiring hub. I thought everyone should read this. You have strong point and this is original idea. I believe this was came from your heart. I know the body may getting old but the spirit always still young. Thank you very much. I give my vote for you. Have a nice weekend.
Prasetio
Yes my dear Prasetio, you are right, it does come from my heart, each day offers us new thoughts and ideas about life, the good, bad & ugly. Sometimes when something pops into my mind I just must write about it. Thank you for your comment...love & peace darski
Oh wow so many ideas and such a lot of information. You are such a star Darski - you always give so much of your heart to your writing. Awesome. Take care, you are amazing.
It has been all said with which I whole heartedly agrre with. A brilliant hub and dreams.
Yo Darski. I love you at every age. You're better than renaissance art. You're prettier than a Renoir! You're better than a fine wine and all these things because you don't have those price tags. God bless you Dear Darski!
I adore this post as you expressed out lot of things from your depth of heart , i really enjoyed your thoughts in your writing . So i vote up this stuff .My lovely friend
I have a dream too and at best I try to stay focused on my dream and beleive in it each and everyday and yet often times the wind is knocked from my sails. Positive thought, lets hope it works for the long haul. Love and Peace :) Katie :)
Thank you all my awesome friends for making your awesome comments on my hub, My Dreams Are Powerful, now aging has Changed the Rules...now it's time to learn to work better with the new rules...love & peace darski
First of all I have to say "FANTASTIC" discription of "ageless"! WE have a choice in life, no one takes our hand and forces us to "think, feel or say" how we want to become. I too look in the mirror and think how many years have flown by. Now I am fortunate as I don't look all of my 67 years,and my mind doesn't think 67, however, when I am thinking like a 30 year old or younger by trying to jump, run, pull, twist, or many other now challenging activities, my body stops me dead in my tracts and says...."whoooa girl", you can't seriously think I'm able to do that so easily anymore...that's when the reins get pulled back and reality sets in. No I'm not saying that stops me, but my body sometimes will painfully remind me I am not 30 yeasrs old! As long as I can stay young in my mind, and God has given me these years to move forward, I can stay positive and continue on the journey that is mine for the taking and to do it with pride and guidence of the Lord. You put this so amazing true in this story. I had to laugh. Oh and the video of the "Seniors" trying to act like kids. Koodos to them, I hope none of them were seriously hurt. I totally bellieve that you never give up, look in the mirror and look beyond what you see, inside, what is it you want to leave behind? I want to leave people smiling and laughing when they remember me. Thanks so much for your insite, it was a delight to travel with you in your story. Thanks for the smiles.
Wow, what a rush, a little hippie slang, but I am so impressed with you all, and yes, we can talk about it, but something deep inside keeps telling me to hurry, it that normal? I love my hub friends so much that even if I can't write, someday, I will still visit until the end of times. You are all so awesome, I just got away with so many things when I was beautiful and I guess becoming invisible is even better. I think I will walk into the grocery store one day with my robe on and my rabbit with ears slippers and see if anyone notices me...Love & peace darski
Sandyspider Level 1 Commenter 17 months ago
Well constructed thoughts. Your mind was really working on this. I agree that our bodies wear out long before our minds do.